A nice dinner with wine. A movie with a good friend, sharing a tub of popcorn. Eating a hurried lunch across a desk at work with a co-worker. Preparing a nice family meal. Thanksgiving. Tasting someone else’s ice cream cone. Bringing a treat to a small get-together. A dinner-date in a new place.
Eating alone sucks. Food, when you are alone, can possibly nourish your body, but what you crave is nourishment for your social-soul.
You eat together because it creates its own mood, its own pleasure beyond the food itself. Food is more than just eating.
So, how do you uncouple your need for human interaction with your need for food? You don’t. You shouldn’t.
What you need is to uncouple relationships from the pleasure of eating the wrong food.
Too often you eat too much, and you eat the wrong food, when you are with someone else. The closer the relationship, the more likely you are to not follow the sensible eating rules you have made for yourself to control your weight.
You get into one of those: “I won’t follow my weight loss rules today if you won’t follow yours.” “It’s such a special occasion, I’m going off Weight Watchers for this meal, how about you?”
What we need is permission to say, “How can we both find great pleasure in this meal, and keep on the path of our healthy weight loss?”
Perhaps, at the end of the day, that is an important quest you and your friends can go on together: “Let’s find a dozen GREAT PLEASURE FOODS and WONDERFUL MEALS we can really enjoy together, and continue to lose weight.”
If you don’t, you will always be battling the results of the wrong foods and meals. If you don’t, and you “stay on the weight loss wagon” together, you will each have a sense of being deprived of the joys of great food with enjoyable people. Which leads to wrong food choices later. And will deepen any unhealthy relationship you may already have with food.
Wouldn’t understanding how “social food” can sabotage your weight, make your day lighter?
HEART PLAN — WEIGHT LOSS SUCCESS Begins in Your Heart
© 2014 Boyd Jentzsch. All rights reserved.
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-by Boyd Jentzsch
Boyd, a recovering Attorney, turned to weight loss research 20 years ago when he lost his mother to the lifelong effects of obesity. He has spent the ensuing years searching the science, and formulating a comprehensive metabolic map of the body — the only complete map of its kind. The map reveals the causes and effects of obesity and related chronic lifestyle diseases. It shows the only proven pathways to preventing and losing excess weight. From that unique foundation, he and his team created a weight loss education program that has helped tens of thousands to lose weight and keep it off. Plus, they created innovative and fun fitness and nutrition education programs for elementary school children, proven to reduce the early bio-markers for childhood obesity. HEART PLAN is a collection of his observations over the years of the emotional impact and motivational challenges nearly everyone faces when trying to keep lost weight off permanently.
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