Making Love is the Antidote. We eat emotionally. Then use rationality to justify it.

Making Love is the Antidote.
We eat emotionally. Then use rationality to justify it.

by Boyd Jentzsch

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A few years ago, Geneen Roth wrote a book about “Feeding the Hungry Heart.” Plus another one, “When Food is Love.” Published 30+ years ago, their central theme, which resonates even more today, was…

Love and Weight Loss“Empty Heart = Empty Stomach.”

It really is true. We eat because we feel unsatisfied with so much in our life. We can’t blame it on bad sex, because…well, you know the reasons we can’t blame it on that.

Unsatisfied, sometimes fearful, sometimes vaguely discontented, we search for comfort. Food, especially the kind that is fattening and sugary, makes us feel comforted…

…at least until the first serving is gone.

It is not a rush into gluttony. It is a retreat into unfilled spaces.

Men canʼt mention, nor allow themselves to acknowledge, a connection between love and food, because, well, they are men.

And women, schooled by their mothers in the supremacy of privacy, can’t tell anyone about their dissatisfactions – can you?

“I Am Woman,” as Helen Reddy sang, way back then…

I am woman
hear me roar
in numbers too big to ignore
I know too much to go
back and pretend…
I’ve heard it all before

So, you see, if you are going to be roaring, you can’t be complaining…
…So, you eat the second serving.

Life can hurt sometimes. Disappointment can run deep…
…Third helpings on the way?  An indulgent snack?

But joy can run deep also. Deeper…
…Push the un-needed food away.

Love can hurt. Love also heals.

Making love creates a renewed sense of fulfillment. A deepened sense of self. Satisfaction. Enlightenment.

But in our daily lives we forget about making love…
…We go on a love-making diet
…We become love-famished
…We run on love-reserve
…Run on love-empty
…We are love-anorexic

So we become food indulgent. Almost seems food-famished at times, doesn’t it?

It’s not because we love food more. It’s because we feel less love.

Make love more. Eat less.

Feeding your empty heart?

Making love is the antidote.

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-by Boyd Jentzsch
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Boyd, a recovering Attorney, turned to weight loss research 20 years ago when he lost his mother to the lifelong effects of obesity. He has spent the ensuing years searching the science, and formulating a comprehensive metabolic map of the body — the only complete map of its kind. The map reveals the causes and effects of obesity and related chronic lifestyle diseases. It shows the only proven pathways to preventing and losing excess weight. From that unique foundation, he and his team created a weight loss education program that has helped tens of thousands to lose weight and keep it off. Plus, they created innovative and fun fitness and nutrition education programs for elementary school children, proven to reduce the early bio-markers for childhood obesity. HEART PLAN is a collection of his observations over the years of the emotional impact and motivational challenges nearly everyone faces when trying to keep lost weight off permanently.

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  1. Rebecca Swenor says

    This is true and making love can be great exercise also.

  2. I am the exact opposite. I don’t eat when I’m upset.

  3. It really does depend on the person whether or not they eat out of frustration or not. Some eat a lot when frustrated-sexually or not–some just can’t eat a bite. Every woman is an individual and has to figure this out for herself!

  4. Interesting. Usually it’s stress, not lack of love that makes me eat. Whether your theory is right or not, I guess it can’t hurt makin’ love more.

  5. I eat when I’m hungry, or bored, but rarely when I’m upset.

  6. I tend to eat when I am upset or bored!!

  7. I am like Lisa, I tend to eat when I am bored rather than emotional. So, it’s best to stay busy other wise I will want to eat when just need something to do.

  8. I haven’t heard that I am a woman quote before, I love this!

  9. I tend to eat when I am emotional.. I wish I can be like the others not use food as an emotional crutch.

  10. I love this. This is so true. I tend to eat when I am bored or super stressed… sigh 🙁

  11. Yeah, some turn to eating when not happy with their relationship as an outlet.

  12. Rubbie Anne Abad says

    I am used to being hurt. So just chill, don’t wait for them and let them approach me. That’s what I always say to myself

  13. I actually stop eating completely when I’m upset. Stress makes me eat though.

  14. I’m a stress eater for sure. If my relationship is going over a bit of a bump, it’s even worse!

  15. As a Man i admit that when i am stressed or feeling bad i eat and eat..

  16. I’m going the menopause so I eat for ALL REASONS!!!

  17. Ah, that song takes me back. My mom loved Helen Reddy and that song played often in our house when I was growing up.

  18. This makes alot of sense but I’m more like Kim, I am menopausal and eat for any reason. Thanks for sharing.

  19. I quit my bad habits of eating for the fact I could.. now if I get bored or whatnot, I just drink water.

  20. You make so much sense… I completely agree with you. Love can hurt. Love also heals.. and when one is hurt it does effect the hunger. The hunger for food and the hunger for love both,….

  21. Sooo true. I think I’m at that point. I need to do something and just say no to extra plates, sweets, etc.

  22. I agree to an extent but I don’t think those are the only times we eat, and I don’t think making love is the only antidote but I think there are instances when this is a great cause/effect/solution.

  23. Interesting post! Never looked at eating this way!

  24. I know a few people who could benefit from this article. Thanks for sharing.

  25. That is a great point. I do tend to eat when I am upset.

  26. I usually don’t have the appetite when I’m upset or in a bad mood. Thanks for the reminder. 🙂

  27. I love the analogies. They are absolutely true. Thank you for the reminder!

  28. I’m not the type to eat when upset…I usually have no hunger for days. Boredom or snacking while watching movies are more of a problem for me.

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