You donʼt really want to lose weight, do you?
TRYING to lose weight IS the path to FAILURE.
TRYing to lose weight is your way of telling yourself you are doing something about your excess weight.
TRYing to lose weight is your way to focus on your weight, because you sincerely want to do something about it.
TRYing to lose weight is your signal to family, and friends, that you are taking action NOW, to control your weight.
But, as Master Yoda said to Luke, “TRY is the language of failure.”
“There is no TRY. Only DO, or NOT DO.”
WARNING: REALITY CHECK AHEAD
Do Not Enter This Next Area unless you are ready to be confronted by some difficult-to-face realities.
1. Most weight loss programs suck. They just donʼt work long term. Or at least not very well for you. Most are based on a fanatical devotion to just one thing… very low calorie diets, yet disguised as something else.
Truth: Everyone loses weight when they quit eating. Thatʼs not a diet. Thatʼs a way one ticket to stupid-hood. It sets your body up for some weight loss now and some weight Re-GAIN later, plus some extra pounds.
2. Most weight loss programs are based on partial-science. They jump on the bandwagon of the “latest scientific advances” as it it were the only science ever done — as if it were the only piece of science that mattered.
Truth: The body is complex. Science has discovered over 200 genes that influence weight gain. Less than 5 are scientifically understood enough to say anything specific about how they affect your weight. (Less than 2.5%.) Nobody knows how all those genes interact with each other in making you gain, or lose weight. NO ONE.
3. Weight loss companies want you back as a REPEAT customer. Itʼs cheaper to get you to come back than to find a new customer. That is basically an admission of their failure to help you permanently lose weight in the first place.
Truth: Weight loss programs are costly exercises in frustration. So, it would be denying reality to expect them to do anything other than lead you to failure.
OK. Fair enough. Weight loss programs set you up for failure…
So you use them, and guess what? You fail. That’s not a surprise, it’s an excuse…
“So, thatʼs why I canʼt lose weight!”
Then you use them again? Shame on you. You deserve better than that. Everyone does.
The failure cycle repeats because you are not in “weight-loss-success” mode. You are in “weight-loss-TRY” mode.
You will quite simply announce that you are “TRYing to lose weight,” which sets up your excuse in advance of your failure. Saying the magic word “Try” gives you the wriggle room to not have to succeed.
STOP for a moment and ask yourself a very personal question:
“Why am I TRYing to lose weight?”
Look at it a different way. Think about a car.
Suppose you went out to your car, got it going, it started down the driveway and died. Out of gas.
So you go in the house. Wait an hour, go back out and TRY to start it again. Nothing happens.
So you go back home, come back out, and TRY to start it again. Nothing happens. Hmmm.
You decide to wait until tomorrow to TRY and see if it starts again. Nope. Drat! Still out of gas.
(One definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.)
How many times have you TRYed to lose weight?
As you are reading this I can easily guess that you have TRYed 3-4-5 times or more to lose weight. Whatever your initial result, several months later you ended up weighing more than when you started. Right?
So have you been cycling and recycling on a single low-calorie weight loss program like Weight Watchers. Or are you more of a buffet-type user, sampling different ones each time?
Either way, you have TRYed to lose weight and ended up weighing more. Correct?
Now you can blame the weight loss programs — the Re-GAIN programs. Heaven knows there is plenty about them to blame. So, you have an excuse. No one will blame you. YOU wonʼt blame you.
Now here is where it gets a bit difficult…
Nearly every person who uses these weight loss programs gain all their lost weight back, and end up blaming themselves. Weight Watchers (or Jenny Craig, NutriSystem or South Beach, or HCG, or __________ (fill in the blank).
In your mind, each of these programs is OK. You are the failure. Right? I mean, theyʼve been around for so many years, and millions and millions have used them, so if YOU fail to keep the weight off down the road, you are at fault. Right?
Wrong. At least not as far as the weight loss programs are concerned (remember, they count on getting you back — which is why I call them “Re-GAIN Programs”).
So, you stop TRYing and accept your weight. Or you get discouraged, knowing you have some major genetic or character defect, and feebly commit to TRY something again next year. Have you ever done that?
Whew. Arenʼt you TIRED of all that?